A Special New Year's Activity for Your Children They Won't Forget

Around the world, when the New Year chimes in, there is hope. Hope for a year of prosperity, abundance, and goodwill. 

It's universal.

There’s one tradition that I love, and I wanted to share it with you because your children can join in too.

In many parts of the world, there is a New Year's tradition of reflecting on the things that didn't go well during the past year and making the intention to leave them behind. 

The Practice

The tradition some people practice is to write down all of the things they want to leave behind on pieces of paper and before the clock strikes midnight, they throw the paper into the fire. 

Now they are ready to move into the New Year without taking the unwanted baggage with them. What's appealing about this tradition is that it's not only based on hope, but there is a clear intention behind it. 

It's a reminder that we have the power to make significant changes to our lives, whether it’s to work out regularly, eat better, or spend more time with loved ones; we have the possibility for improving ourselves.

We make the intention, create the space for it, and get to work. 

Easier said than done, I know. 

Include the Children

However, it's never too early to teach our children the importance of clear intentions and the power of vision and change.

If your children are old enough to write, they can join you by writing down anything they want to leave behind, and they can make the intention to do something differently for the New Year.

If they are too young to write, then you may have to do the writing for them. It would be fun to keep copies of what they want to leave behind to look back on years later.

Another thing that’s valuable about traditions, is that the tradition you can bring into your children's lives, the more things they have to look forward to during the year.

Traditions around holidays are landmarks that define certain times of the year. They are also times for shared memories and building family bonds. 

On a larger scale, traditions are the means by which we pass on our culture and customs to the next generation. 

Tradition: how the vitality of the past enriches the life of the present.
— T. S. Eliot

Some Traditions

My grandfather was from a family of Greek immigrants, so we grew up with a very big Greek family. For the New Year's, there was a special cake that we baked with a 25-cent piece hidden somewhere inside the cake. 

As children, there was always a lot of suspense to see who would get the quarter, because whoever got it was guaranteed good luck for the next year. 

And my grandmother was from Georgia. The southern tradition is to bake black-eyed peas for dinner as good luck. Eating black-eyed peas on New Year’s Day is considered good luck because after the  Civil War, that's all there was to eat.

It was actually the food for horses that kept the Southerners alive after the war.  Growing up, we celebrated this tradition, too, with the typical southern accompaniments of collard greens, cornbread, and honey butter.

Honestly, the more traditions you have, the merrier.

Happy New Year! 

May it be a good year full of hope, prosperity, and abundance.

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Developing a comprehensive understanding of how to raise and educate a child, based on tradition and modern research, Liz devotes her time to helping parents to get it right.

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"I know Elizabeth Y. Hanson as a remarkably intelligent, highly sensitive woman with a moral nature and deep insight into differences between schooling and education. Elizabeth's mastery of current educational difficulties is a testimony to her comprehensive understanding of the competing worlds of schooling and education. She has a good heart and a good head. What more can I say?”

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10 Gifts for Your Child that Won’t Disappoint!

When we buy a gift for our child, we want it to light up his face.

At the same time, we don't want to overindulge our children with toys that clutter up their rooms and spoil their characters.

To find a happy medium, I’ve created a list of ten gifts that will make your child happy and benefit his brain.

1. The Proverbial Book

Most young children enjoy receiving a book as a gift. You can buy a beautiful edition of a particular book with leather binding or a fancy edition of the book that includes a slipcase.

If your child is younger, choose a cleverly illustrated book like Mother Goose by Silvia Long or Aesop’s Fables by Chronicle Books. For a gift, I would stick to the classics.

Classics have stood the test of time, and your children will cherish them for many years to come, even unto adulthood.

2. Brain Cells at Work

No child ever tires of putting together a puzzle, and how wonderful it is for the budding brain cells. Your child will develop his reasoning and problem-solving skills, he exercises his hand-eye coordination, he builds his sensory/motor skills (lots of pinching, picking, and putting tasks involved), and he feels happy when he accomplishes his mammoth feat.

The latter also helps to build his confidence. Who would have thought your child could gain so much from a puzzle!

The wooden puzzle sets by Melissa and Doug are all-time favorites for younger children. 

For older children, you can try something like a colorful map of Europe.

3. Rainy Day Activities

Rainy days and long summer nights are perfect times for playing board games. Depending upon your child's age, you can buy him games that he'll enjoy playing with friends and family.

Think of games such as Chutes and Ladders, Checkers, and even chess. Board games are perfect for building social skills, especially the art of losing well.

4. Discovering Where Timbuktu Is

Children love playing cards. If you'd like to contribute to your child's education, buying a card game that teaches the countries of the world or the fifty states and capitals is perfect.

Sadly, most children don't learn much geography anymore. But with a good game of cards, your child won’t be one of them.

5. Playing Queen for the Day

A “make-your-own-jewelry” set is better suited for girls because girls love their jewelry! Making jewelry is a lot of fun, it's creative, and the jewelry can be given away as gifts. Children, therefore, will also learn the much-appreciated virtue of generosity. This kit is complete, and the price is reasonable too.

Girls Jewelry Making Kit

6. Rocket Man

And boys love rockets! Actually, all the children will have fun making this rocket from a soda bottle and baking soda. The kit comes with instructions, all the supplies you need, and it's easy to do.

The Water Bottle Model Rocket is suitable for children six through the early teens. The water rocket is another activity that is fun to do with other children and encourages cooperation.

7. More Than Just Another Puzzle

Children love brain games. Rubric cubes are a lot of fun, but the wooden brain puzzles are even better. Your child will spend hours trying to figure out the problem, and a child who stays at it long enough is bound to eventually figure it out.

Patience is the name of the game with this kind of puzzle, and patience is a virtue. A brain puzzle is a perfect way to learn a little patience.

Warning: only buy one puzzle. The kits with multiple puzzles will dilute your child’s attention, and he’ll be less likely to solve the mystery. 

8. Stencil Kit

A stencil kit is probably not the first gift that pops into your mind when thinking of a gift for your child, but the truth is that children love to stencil. It's another activity that your child can do with friends, alone, or even while traveling; and it'll keep him occupied for hours.

Children will naturally compliment each other’s work, too, which is another opportunity to learn generosity and kindness towards others.

9. A Musical Adventure

Many children miss the story of Peter and the Wolf, composed by Sergie Prokofiev. Peter and the Wolf is a classical composition that introduces the musical instruments of a symphony through a story about Peter and the Wolf.

Children love to listen to this piece, and they may even show an interest in a particular instrument, which is a great way to get them into the world of classical music.

Musical training will teach your child many virtues, including discipline and perseverance. It also gives him an interest that will elevate his character rather than then let society drag it down.

Peter and the Wolf is the perfect place to start and the ideal gift for your child.

10. The Gift of Andrew Jackson

When all else fails, there's always the 20 dollar bill. Children love to receive money, so don't feel bad if for some reason you can’t buy something. The 20 dollar bill could turn out to be his favorite gift!

It's also an excellent way to introduce your child to the value of a dollar and how to spend it wisely on something worth buying.

The best way to deliver this gift is to buy a money card from your local gift shop and then get a crisp twenty-dollar bill from the bank.

The Don’ts of Buying Children’s Gifts

If you are buying a gift for someone else’s child, you want to be sure to follow these guidelines:

  1. Do not buy any toys that make noise (the parents will never forgive you).

  2. Do not buy anything electronic (parents are struggling enough with their children and technology).

  3. Do not buy candy (many parents do not appreciate this).

That said, if you follow the suggestions above, you will not only make yours or someone else’s child very happy, but you’ll help them become better people too. 

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Elizabeth Y. Hanson is a homeschooling thought-leader and the founder of Smart Homeschooler.

As an Educator, Homeschool Emerita, Writer, and Love and Leadership Certified Parenting Coach, she has 23 years of experience working in education.

Developing a comprehensive understanding of how to raise and educate a child, based on tradition and modern research, Liz devotes her time to helping parents to get it right.

Liz is available for one-on-one consultations as needed.

"I know Elizabeth Y. Hanson as a remarkably intelligent, highly sensitive woman with a moral nature and deep insight into differences between schooling and education. Elizabeth's mastery of current educational difficulties is a testimony to her comprehensive understanding of the competing worlds of schooling and education. She has a good heart and a good head. What more can I say?”

John Taylor Gatto Distinguished educator, public speaker, and best-selling author of Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling. For a copy of The Short Angry History of Compulsory Schooling, click here.

Is homeschooling Better for Your Child's Mental Health?

Tears of Trauma

A kindergarten teacher once told me that the first two weeks of school she spends consoling the tearful children.

Look at it from a child's perspective: parents are a child’s rock and then the parents leave the child in a strange place, with strange people. The child feels abandoned by his parents. You can imagine the anxiety it might provoke.  

As you know, children's needs are very simple. They need to feel safe. They need to feel loved. They need to feel protected. 

However, when a child’s emotional needs are not met from situations like going to school at early ages,  it can interfere with the development of the nervous system.

We also know that children as young as five years of age now suffer from problems, such as anxiety and depression, which are ailments of the nervous system.

America is also struggling with an overgrowth of narcissistic people, which can stem from emotional trauma during childhood; such as emotional or physical abuse, as well as excessive praise and unrealistic expectations. 

On top of that, children are not wired to sit at desks at early ages. This is a bigger problem for boys than girls because boys have more restless energy than girls, which is why the ADHD epidemic has affected more boys than it has girls. 

The Rush to Label Children

When I look at the symptoms of ADHD, including hyperactivity, lack of focus with boring activities,  a struggle to listen, and saying inappropriate things, it sounds to me like the typical behavior of a young child.

When I look at the suggestions for non-medical treatment, it includes, lo and behold, exercise! In other words, movement, which is exactly what young children need.

We are too quick to label our young ones rather than face the obvious: our societal expectations of children are unrealistic. 

Another non-medical treatment is behavior therapy! I know from my work as a parenting coach that most parents are failing to teach their children how to listen when they are spoken to. Listening is a skill, but it is also common courtesy. 

One symptom that I find utterly ridiculous, and I'm sure you will, too,  is the inability to maintain focus when a child is not interested in the task in hand. Well, who doesn't have trouble focusing when they are not interested in something?

The Problem of Focus

Have you ever tuned out at a boring lecture or a repetitive task? I know I have! I'll be washing dishes and my mind has taken me to the Piazzo Della Signoria and has me sipping on a hot cappuccino on a cold winter day. 

If I can't stay focused on a boring lecture or mindless household tasks, what hope is there for a little child when he's bored by what he's been told to do?

What little boy wants to compute a row of additional problems when he could be outside fighting dragons? Or remember his spelling list correctly when he could be searching for a lost treasure?

Or try to decode some letters on a page when he could be fighting a villain with a magic sword?

The life of a little boy is so much more exciting that the dictates of a schoolteacher. Rather than acknowledge and accommodate the needs of our children, we drug them to fit our school agendas. 

Children are not wired to begin academic learning at early ages. They need to reach a certain level of development neurologically, emotionally, and physically to be ready to sit at a desk and study academic subjects; such as reading, writing, and arithmetic. 

You’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
— A.A. Milne

When we deprive our children of the joy of fighting dragons, searching for lost treasures, and magic sword fights, we do it at the expense of their development. 

We have been putting our kids into early learning programs since the 1970s, and it is no accident that the mental health issues amongst children has been rising since then, as well. 

Homeschooling Breeds Happier Kids

But mental and emotional well-being scores differently for homeschooled kids. The studies have shown that homeschooled kids are emotionally stronger than schooled kids, at least I can speak for kids who are homeschooled without government help because these are the kids the researchers have studied. 

(If your children are in virtual schools, the virtual schools might be contributing to emotional problems, such as anti-social behavior and a loss of interest in normal childhood activities.)

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Raymond Moore studied the research on early education and his conclusion was that "...warm and consistent proximity to one's parents until age 8 appeared to be a greater predictor of eventual stability and cognitive maturity than any special effort toward cognitive development."

When you homeschool your children, they do not experience the stress to their developing nervous systems that schooled kids might experience. Nor do they have to begin academic studies before they are developmentally ready. 

On the contrary, you get to decide when your child is ready to sit down and apply his mind to academic subjects. 

We have plenty of studies now that show children are better at home; free from the company of strangers, free from the confines of a school desk, and free from the demands of unrealistic academic expectations. 

Homeschooled kids continue to feel safe, loved, and protected long after the academic years of learning begin. They are also free to roam for as long as they need to, so they can reap all of the developmental benefits that come with a "free-range" childhood. 

And this is why it makes sense that homeschooling is better for a child's emotional health. 

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Elizabeth Y. Hanson is a homeschooling thought-leader and the founder of Smart Homeschooler.

As an Educator, Homeschool Emerita, Writer, and Love and Leadership Certified Parenting Coach, she has 23 years of experience working in education.

Developing a comprehensive understanding of how to raise and educate a child, based on tradition and modern research, Liz devotes her time to helping parents to get it right.

Liz is available for one-on-one consultations as needed.

"I know Elizabeth Y. Hanson as a remarkably intelligent, highly sensitive woman with a moral nature and deep insight into differences between schooling and education. Elizabeth's mastery of current educational difficulties is a testimony to her comprehensive understanding of the competing worlds of schooling and education. She has a good heart and a good head. What more can I say?”

John Taylor Gatto Distinguished educator, public speaker, and best-selling author of Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling. For a copy of The Short Angry History of Compulsory Schooling, click here.

Guess Which Celebrities Are Homeschooling?

With the homeschooling trend picking up speed each New Year, you might be surprised at the number of celebrities who homeschool. Here’s a few to start with, including some of their reasons for homeschooling. 

Angelina Jolie

Angelina Jolie is homeschooling her six children. Now, I'm not sure if this means that she has hired a governess to teach them, but what's important is that she's decided her kids will do better learning at home because of their diverse backgrounds. 

Which makes sense because a public school would be short-pressed to meet their needs. One of the beauties of homeschooling is that  you can custom tailor your curriculum to meet the needs and interests of your children. 

In school, there is no room for a child's own interests; he has to learn what the teacher decides he should learn. But in a homeschool, your kids can dive into subjects that interest them and that would be meaningful for them. 

I would guess that this would be important for Angelina's children too. 

Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

Gusele Bundchen

Supermodel Gusele Bundchen and her NFL husband Tom Brady decided to stick with homeschooling after the Covid pandemic because they wanted to provide more stability for their children. 

Regardless of what is happening in the world, an uninterrupted education for your children makes sense. Consistency is vital to developing certain skills, and stability is so critical to a child's sense of well-being. Maintaining a stable learning environment is essential during the educative years. 

Homeschooling will help with a child's emotional state too. At home, or even in homeschooling playgroups, children are not separated from their parents at early ages, so anxiety or depression that might result from these early separations is avoided. 

On top of that, as you know, separation anxiety is real in children. It always baffles me that we treat it as insignificant in America. Children need to feel loved, protected, and safe for their nervous systems to develop well, so they are not at risk for developing emotional issues later. 

If the world were to stand still again, as it did during Covid, one group that won't be affected is the homeschoolers, because it'll be homeschooling as usual. 

Mayim Bialik

Mayim Bialik, the Big Bang Theory actress, decided to homeschool. She believes that allowing her children to learn at their own pace, rather than be shuffled along with 30 other kids, will have a huge impact on how well they do academically. 

Don’t just teach your children to read. Teach them to question what they read. Teach them to question everything.
— George Carlin

And she's right. But not just academically. I would add that homeschooling has the enormous benefit of building self-confidence too.

Children who learn at their own pace don't adopt a "group think" mindset. The problem with the "group think" mindset is that it leads to a dependence upon what the group thinks, instead of having the confidence to hold and express a differing view. 

Homeschooled kids grow up in environments where they are encouraged to speak their minds, so this is what's normal for them. The idea of being inauthentic isn't something a homeschooled kid would be inclined towards.

Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise homeschooled their children as did John Travolta and Kelly Preston, amongst so many others. The list goes on…

And who are the famous homeschoolers that came before us? This list is long, too, but to name a few…

Thomas Edison. He wasn't doing well in school, so his mother pulled him out and taught him herself. 

Theodore Roosevelt was homeschooled due to health reasons. 

Alexander the Great was tutored by Aristotle, as has been the custom of the ruling families (they need to raise leaders!)

Alexander Hamilton was largely self-taught until college. 

President Andrew Johnson was self-taught as an adult, having never attended school.

And the list goes on…

When you think about it, hiring a tutor to teach your children is a homeschool education. So if it is good enough for the ruling class—and preferred by the ruling class—why shouldn't our kids have a "leader's" education too? 

Join the FREE Masterclass: Top 3 Secrets to Homeschooling for Success (Your kids will thank you when they’re grown!) by Liz Hanson

Get a copy of Liz’s homeschooling Bible, Education’s Not the Point: How Schools Fair to Train Children’s Minds and Nurture Their Characters with Essays by John Taylor Gatto and Dorothy Sayers.

Elizabeth Y. Hanson is a homeschooling thought-leader and the founder of Smart Homeschooler.

As an Educator, Homeschool Emerita, Writer, and Love and Leadership Certified Parenting Coach, she has 23 years of experience working in education.

Developing a comprehensive understanding of how to raise and educate a child, based on tradition and modern research, Liz devotes her time to helping parents to get it right.

Liz is available for one-on-one consultations as needed.

"I know Elizabeth Y. Hanson as a remarkably intelligent, highly sensitive woman with a moral nature and deep insight into differences between schooling and education. Elizabeth's mastery of current educational difficulties is a testimony to her comprehensive understanding of the competing worlds of schooling and education. She has a good heart and a good head. What more can I say?”

John Taylor Gatto Distinguished educator, public speaker, and best-selling author of Dumbing Us Down: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling. For a copy of The Short Angry History of Compulsory Schooling, click here.